Wednesday, 26 May 2021

Worry:-How to reduce worry and control worrying

 

''Worry" on listening the word automatically worries of your life will rise in your mind.

life is full of worries!!! our brain is full of worries!!! worry about health, worry about wealth, worry about relations, worry about job or business, worry about home, worry about debt, worry about family, worry about friends, worry about studies, so many worries in such short life!!!!

Is life all about worries? Is worrying good? Is worrying good for health? how can we control worries? how to reduce worries? 

Well, I am here to help to help you answer these all questions and guarantee you worthiness and power of my solutions! DO NOT MISS THE ENDING.

-> Understanding worry:-

Worrying is mulling over a problem, employing constructive reflection to get to a solution.

''worry is the vigilance for potential danger which has been essential for survival over course of evolution''-Daniel Goleman.

when fear is triggered in the brain, the resulting anxiety takes over the mind forcing to obsess about it & ignore anything else for a time being.

'' task of worrying is to come up with positive solution for life's peril by anticipating dangers before they arise"-Daniel Goleman.

so is worrying good or not?  The answer can be both yes and no!!

yes is only for productive worry! worry or brainstorming about something productive in your life or worry about a good cause.

example: worry about your career can lead to your growth and make you act towards it

No is for unproductive worries! The difficulty is with unproductive, repetitive or worries which are unreasonable, uncontrollable or impossible worries

These kind of worries magnifies without reaching a positive solutions!

example:" if I won't achieve this goal, I will be a failure, I won't be able to earn money, I won't have a family, people would not respect or love me, I will be a loser, I won't ever be happy." 

In this display of worry, you see how in seconds it magnified to lifelong declaration! "I will be a loser"

such worries have very low probablity of actual occuring!

one of the worst feature of worrying is: It destroys our ability to concentrate. so accepting that worry mentally & face it with full courage & find a solution.

Worrying creates stress & anxiety  which creates anger and all of these emotions are very harmful for our mental as well as physical health. lowering your immune system, increasing blood pressure, problems of digestion, inability to focus, inability to work.


Worrying, wastes energy and wastes time; it limits what you can accomplish.  Try not to obsess on the past, but to learn from it. Try not to worry about the future, but to prepare for it. And while it’s difficult sometimes, Try to take pleasure in the moment, even when bad things happen. 

Refer to my blog on anger to learn to control it:-  http://influentialwriterats.blogspot.com/2021/05/solution-to-solve-your-any-problems.html


-> Eliminating worries! :-

1. Best way to deal with worry is to write them down and then write out solutions you can think to solve it.

example:- I am worried about the tomorrow's presentation.

or I am worried about perfect preparations for guest arriving 

solution:- make an impressive presentation, prepare and practice for it and give my best

or clean up house, cook delicious food, treat them so well that they are happy and comfortable.

This method is very helpful for you to deal with most chronic worries of your life.

2. Taking Action on the solution will help you eliminate the worry! 

Finding the solution and acting on it instead of thinking will eliminate the worry!

refer my blog on solution to the problems to help you find solution


3. "The best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm, on doing today's work superbly today. That is the only way you can prepare for future!!."-Dale Carnegie.

This is the most influential and Master solution to eliminate worries!!

"to be in present moment" ask yourself where you are? answer- here in the present!!

worries are the concerns of future and future is uncertain. so stay here in the present moment make the best of it rather then worrying about future course of actions! 

meditation and mindfulness is the practice to stay in present moment!

4. Ask this question and answer it



This is

 a simple way 

to free your

 mind from worry.






5. Every person around us may be full of worries and problems in their life. A little kindness and love would be so good to every HUMAN BEING you meet. THINK ABOUT IT. 

TRY THE ART OF GIVING!!!- HELPING PEOPLE BEING GENEROUS & FEEL THAT HAPPINESS & BEING GRATEFUL. AND SEE YOUR WORRIES FLYING AWAY!!!

TRUST GOD. EVERY THING HAPPENS FOR A GOOD REASON BELIEVE IT! 

DO  NOT WORRY, BE HAPPY, ENJOY YOUR PRESENT AND MAE IT USEFUL!

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